As I sat having a drink after work with a friend of mine we came up on a very good point in Relationships in this modren world that we live in. And here it is....
"Why is it that men secretly look at porn while women secretly look at wedding dresses?"
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Now, stop and think about it for a moment. We have all done it. You look it up online when your boyfriend or girlfriend is at work or out for the night. You don't see the harm in it. But at the same time when you hear that car door shut that says "Hi Honey, I'm home!" you rush to get it off the screen. You even clear the google search history...just in case.
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So why do we do it? Why does it matter? Does it make us bad people?
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Really there is nothing wrong with it. In my mind both Porn and Wedding dresses are both very health. Looking at it doesn't hurt anyone. Just because you look at it doesn't mean thats want you want.
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Just because a guy looks at a sexy porn girl doesn't mean that he is unhappy in his relationship. And the same goes for Women and wedding dresses. Just because a woman looks at a pretty wedding dress doesn't mean that she wants to go running off to tie the knot. Its nice sometimes to look. Doesn't mean that thats all you think about and that you can't be happy without it.
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Now I don't mean that women don't look at porn and that men do not look at wedding crap. Please dont think that I am. Maybe I am the only one who has thought about this. If not let me know your feelings on this.
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Maggie
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Maggie
2 comments:
You make an interesting point...
Is it possible that men and women look at those different things because that's what society teaches us we're supposed to want?
Or maybe it's sort of evolutionary. Men want to procreate, women want the protection for their young that comes along with marriage.
I wonder if there is wedding dress porn...hmmm.
Oh Google, ask and ye shall receive. ;-) There is. Yuck.
I think Lindsey is right on both scores...the secret indulgence in porn and wedding dresses is BOTH social and biological. (I read that, when humans were evolving, relationships were mostly monogamous but lasted only about 4 years on average.)
I also think Maggie is right when she laments the fact that these desires must be kept secret.
I, for one, am holding out for a relationship where both partners are interested in maintaining that very delicate balance...between respecting desire, independence and freedom...and being sensitive to the upset those desires may create in your partner.
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